The Real Victim - Rev Paul Gonyea

We have to realize what we’re doing when we tell other people that we are powerless in our life, which is what we're really saying when we say we’re a victim. Most of the time we use our sad story to get sympathy from others, or we use it to be right or to prove that we’ve been wronged. That may feel good in the short term, but sympathy can create a very unhealthy attitude for both parties. Because what it does is to solidify the idea in both people’s minds that the problem is more powerful than any solution they could come up with.